Many people are looking for the right partner to be with them in a relationship. Yet they encounter a lot of things in the experience that seems to make them confused about why some things are working and other things are not. This is very simple problem which has a very simple answer. There are pieces of the puzzle and when the necessary pieces are in place, the picture would be complete. There are ways to reconcile the different pieces that show up in the experience and to make sense of them.

There are three main criteria for another person to be a correct fit you. The three things are: Attraction, Synchronicity and Conscious Resonance. All three are extremely important and not one of them must be missing. Each criteria is not just good to have, it is a MUST have. Without one piece, things will never properly work out. You want to experience the best relationship you could ever have for your soul’s development and expression. When all three are in alignment, that is when the magic happens.

The first criterion is attraction. You must be physically attracted to the person, and that is the first and most basic level. No attraction, end of story, no further discussion. Don’t even bother about the other qualities. You are looking for someone you feel attraction for, not a friend. You are looking for a lover. Attraction includes emotional and also sexual attraction. Go for someone you can actually have feelings for. They must be someone that you want, and you actually desire strongly enough to be with them.
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The second is synchronicity. Things must happen in ways that seem to bring you both together. If there don’t seem to be a natural flow or enough coincidences that bring you both together in different ways, then you are fighting against fate, which is a waste of time and energy. There is always rightly a universal order that brings the right person to you in seemingly effortless ways. Synchronicity is across time and space. You both must be able to meet physically in the same time and space with ease.

The third and super important factor is conscious resonance. The other person must be of a compatible mind with yours. If there are always conflicts in the way you both think and feel, then it is really hard to work it out. In fact, when there is no conscious resonance, the other person is absolutely not right for you. You may spend many years with the wrong person before realizing they are not right for you, unless you quickly discern this factor of conscious resonance. See with clarity and understanding.

The word conscious resonance is distinct from the term cognitive resonance in psychology. Conscious resonance is more holistic and transcendental. The level of Conscious Resonance means the entire mentality of a person on all levels of mind and beingness in relation to another person.

We can feel attraction for many people and even more so for some of them. We could even create synchronicities with some of them out of sheer power of intention and strong desire. This is why you can be confused as to whether it is God’s doing or it is you, and it may turn out that quite a number of times, it is just you causing the synchronicities to happen, and not God giving you a sign. The last factor which is Conscious Resonance cannot be faked. It is either there or not there. The individual has a mind of their own, and if what they think and feel is very much in harmony with you, then there is vibrational match.

There are also different degrees of each criterion that we can experience with another person. There are different degrees of attraction, different degrees of synchronicity and different degrees of conscious resonance. Of course, the more of each three we experience, the better it is. It is important that each criterion is in place, and to a high enough degree in order for you to experience them as a good enough fit for you. You want to experience as much happiness and fulfillment as effortlessly as possible.

Intelligence and Alignment are the most important things as well in a relationship. When there is alignment and both of you are feeling good, things tend to work out. But if you want the kind of relationship that does not fail even at times when there is less alignment, that is when intelligence is required. An intelligent partner is required at such times. An intelligent partner is able to communicate with you even when things are not feeling as positive. You can get back in alignment with them more easily.

There is seldom a bigger hindrance when you are on the first levels of the Path than the “un-significant” other. Many times two people have paired up for a prolonged period and are now only together because of the amount of time they have been with each other. When leaving this Earth there will be just you, unless your mate is on the same frequency. The whole relationship paradigm can be summed up with this mode of thought: If he or she is concerned about his or her soul and its growth, then there is a chance the relationship will work. If they are not concerned, then the other conscious party will most assuredly be dragged down. If a person does not care about their soul, which is of the highest value, how can they care about you?

When two people are right for each other, a lot of good things happen when they are together, because their respective consciousness and energy fields interact and blend together in a harmonious and mutually beneficial way. They are like each others’ lucky star and are a blessing to each other. Their individual creative powers are combined and multiplied by an exponential factor when they connect.

How do you find love? You don’t find love by pining for it as though it is not there. YOU FIND LOVE BY LOVING YOUR WAY THERE. Focus on what you can express your love to now, and by the giving of your love freely and joyfully, more of the experience of love will come to you. More positive experiences, Angels - people whom you delight in expressing love to, and who vibrate love, joy, bliss to you, will show up in your life like magic. And before you know it, there is such an abundance of love around you.

Do not look for The One. Live your life. Embrace the moment. Be kind and caring. If The One for you is out there - and you are BOTH ready - you will attract each other by synchronicity - no other way.
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