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Real love is selfless and free from fear. When you love from a place of freedom, you feel pure unresisted appreciation towards the person. True love is unconditional without demand for return. Its joy is in the joy of giving. Love is God in manifestation, and the strongest magnetic force in the universe. Pure, unselfish love draws to itself its own. It doesn’t need to seek or demand. Almost none has the faintest idea of real love. People are selfish, harmful or fearful in their affections, thereby losing the thing they love.

Jealousy is the worst enemy of love for it causes your imagination to go wild, seeing the one you love attracted to another, and these fears inevitably objectify if they are not neutralized. There was a woman in deep distress because the man she loved had left her for other women. He said he never intended to marry her. She felt torn with jealousy and resentment. She said she hoped he would suffer as he had made her suffer. She felt so indignant about how he could leave her when she loved him so much.
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She was told that she was not loving that man but she was hating him. She could never receive what she had never given. Give a perfect love and you will receive a perfect love. She had to give him a perfect, unselfish love, demanding nothing in return. Do not criticize or condemn, and bless him wherever he is. She replied that she wouldn’t bless him unless she knows where he is. Well that is not real love. When you send out real love, real love will return to you either from this person or his or her equivalent.

If that person is the divine selection you will not lack him or her. As you are one with God, you are one with the love which belongs to you by divine right. When you are no longer disturbed by the other person’s cruelty, he or she will cease to be cruel, as you are attracting it through your emotions. Things remained the same for that lady for a number of months, but she was working diligently with herself. She saluted the divinity in everyone. She saw them as not their faulty self but as the perfect image created.

She found herself becoming more poised and losing her resentment over time. He was a Captain and she always called him “The Cap.” One day she suddenly said “God bless the Cap wherever he is.” She was told that now that is real love. When you have become a complete circle and are no longer disturbed by the situation, you will have the love of the person or attract its equivalent. A few weeks later on morning, she sent a letter saying they were married. What happened was a miracle which she shared.

She said she woke up one day and all suffering had ceased. She saw him that evening and he asked her to marry him. They were married in about a week, and she has never seen a more devoted man. No man is your enemy, no man is your friend, but every man is your teacher. So one should become impersonal and learn what each man has to teach him, and soon he would learn his lessons and be free. The woman’s lover was teaching her selfless love, which every person, sooner or later, must learn.

Suffering is not necessary for spiritual development. It is the result of violation of spiritual law. But few people are able to awaken from their unaware state without suffering. When people are happy, they usually become selfish. They become complacent. Many often suffer loss through lack of appreciation. There was a woman who had a very nice husband, but she often said that she did not care anything about being married, and it’s nothing against her husband but she was simply not interested in married life.

She was much more interested in other things to the point that she even seems to forget she had a husband. She only thought of him when she saw him. One day her husband told her he was in love with another woman, and left. She was in distress and resentment but she was told that it was exactly what she spoke the word for. She said she didn’t care anything about being married, so her subconscious worked to get her unmarried. She now realized people get what they want, and then feel very hurt.

But then she felt greater harmony with the situation and realized they were both better off apart. That shows that it was alright after all, because she didn’t truly love him and they weren’t the divine choice for each other. Just realize what you really want so that you won’t suffer needlessly when you do get it. People get emotionally tangled up over losing something they never really wanted in the first place. But don’t make the mistake of failing to appreciate what you have when it is what you truly want either.

Love and goodwill are invaluable in business. A woman complained about her employer because she was cold and critical and did not want her in the position. She was told to salute the divinity in the woman and send her love. She said she couldn’t as her employer was a hard woman. She was told to see the softness within the hardness of her employer and she said she would try. A week later she said she did what she was told and now the woman had become very kind. She even took her out in her car.

You may think you love a person so much to the point that how could you not need that person’s love back? You might think that if the universe brought someone else, that person could never be as good as the one you currently love. But the equivalent means equal or better than. It would never be less. If you give a perfect love, you will never get anything less than your heart’s deepest desire and fullest satisfaction. If there really is no one better, then you would get him or her. So love fearlessly and freely.

The Difference between “Desire” and “Need” in Love: We all have the need to love, and the need to be loved. The desire can be specific, but the need should be general. We may desire to love a specific person but it should not become a need. We may desire to be loved by a specific person but it should not become a need. Strong desire is fine, but a need creates an attachment whereby you are stuck in keeping your expression of love only towards one person, or only expecting love from one person. If the person you love, loves you in return, then that is a wonderful match. Otherwise be free to allow the universe to continue to bring you a vibrational match.
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