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Beware of the pull of emotions. How many times in life have you encountered when you made a decision out of a strong positive or negative feeling and then later realized that it was a mistake? You can make equally harmful mistakes whether the pull was by a positive or negative emotion. The key here is to have complete equanimity no matter what emotion you are experiencing. Allow the emotion to rise and exist without being controlled by it. Make your decision from truth and make use of the emotions.

Suppression of emotion is not control of emotion. You do not control your emotions by suppressing them. Being in control of your emotions is being in control of how you respond to them. When you are feeling angry, you do not stop yourself from feeling angry. You simply allow yourself to feel angry and decide how you would consciously act with that anger. That is true control. You are doing exactly what it is you want with your feeling of anger and not what you don’t want. The same goes for any emotions.

When moving to fulfill your destiny the ideal is to be rational and to not make immediate decisions based on emotions. Allow your emotions to play a part in the larger picture of your decision making but not the only part. Your emotion is your energy in motion at the moment. It is based on your present state. When your state changes, your emotions change. You can have multiple states and emotions about a particular matter. That is why it is important to give yourself time to consolidate all the frames.
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Make your decisions based on what actions will bring you closer to your goals. This requires the ability to recognize how emotions can distract and seduce you. Many a times when we act out of an emotion, we actually move ourselves further away from our goals instead of closer. Emotion is feminine energy and it’s the role of the feminine to distract the masculine away from its purpose. Having masculine clarity means sticking to your intent and not let anything distract or lure you away from what you want.

Your goals and directions in life are based on your emotions. After all, that is why you chose them, because of the deep appeal and satisfaction they will give you. But the actions toward your goals must be rational and well thought out. Always contemplate and ponder thoroughly before you make a move. The more contemplation you make before acting, the less likely you are to fail. That is because your plan is more complete and covers many loopholes. All the greatest plans have the maximum forethought.

Recognize how easy it is to be seduced by your emotions. There is far too much ease to respond to the immediate whim of emotions. It can be very dangerous because these urgent feelings can quickly pull you away from your goals and ultimately away from what you want. Do not sacrifice what you want most for what you want now. If getting what you want now prevents you from getting what you want most, then forbearance and patience is necessary. Focus only on your desire for what you want most.

Vigilance and training is the key. Train yourself to recognize when you are being pulled by emotions and learn to step back, detach yourself, and examine the outcome of your response. A rash response, whether to joy, excitement or anger can potentially seduce you into a moment of regret or, at the least, it can slow your progress to your goal. Even the most positive emotions of love and sympathy can hold a danger of pulling you away from what you want. Do not give only with love but with wisdom as well.

The process of emotional detachment is strange and unnatural to most people for we are accustomed to being tossed to and fro by our emotions like rudderless ship on a violent sea. To combat it, begin to reflect on those times you’ve responded rashly and the consequences of those responses. Within the memory allow yourself to envision a calmer more detached response to the situation, a response that keeps your goals and destiny in mind. Think like this with every new emotional situation that you face.

Allow situations that challenge your emotions. Be like a warrior who welcomes battle in order to face and overcome his fear. What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. All the storms, turmoil and upheavals we face in life are for the purpose of making us more emotionally resilient. Going through the trials and tribulations causes us to become more centered on our core. Positive and negative circumstances no longer hinder us from purposeful living. We can always work, wait or do something different in the now.

You may find emotional detachment to be the most difficult of achievements but also the most rewarding. It gives you the power of transcendence. You escape the swing of the pendulum in life’s circumstances by polarizing yourself above the swing itself. Following the law of detachment is more important than trying to create with the law of attraction. When you master detachment, nothing can hurt you and you can always create without being hindered by outcome. You can persist until your goal is realized.

Having equanimity doesn’t mean you have no feelings. It means you have a calm presence behind those feelings. Feelings are negative only if you resist them. The truth is there are no negative feelings. Whether you feel anger, frustration, worry or even fear, those feelings are negative only if you feel negative about them. You can have good feelings of power behind your anger and a devil may care attitude behind your fear. These positive meta-feelings give you a calm presence of congruence instead of chaos.[/hidepost]