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Many a times in our lives, we are limiting our experience with others or limiting their experience with us. We must remember that we create the reality of our interactions according to the perception we have about others. Perceptions are necessary in order to define those that we know in relation to us. But when they have changed or we have changed but our perception of them or the relationship doesn’t change, then we are limiting things between us to be the way they are. We must refresh perceptions.

Allow yourself to change your perception of others as they change. Expect them to change or have changed instead of expecting them to be the same as they were before. This frees up the relationship for growth and transformation rather than causing the same old problems to keep reoccurring. When others change and we still see them the way they were before, we prevent ourselves from perceiving the changes and therefore do not experience them. We wonder why they never change when they actually did.

You can even change your experience with others simply by changing the way you perceive them, even when they haven’t really changed. When you change your perception of others, you change the consciousness you attract from them and you also literally change the way they are. You create and attract everything into your experience including your interactions with people. Your perception of others create what they are towards you, therefore changing your perception of them changes them.
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If you see the best in others, you bring out the best in them. If you see the worst in others, you bring out the worst in them. That is the reason why some people bring out the best in us while some people bring out the worst in us. Their perception of us draws out the very qualities that correspond with it. Therefore if you want to experience what’s good about others, choose to perceive them in positive ways. Choose also to relate with those who perceive you positively more of the time than those who don’t.

Knowing that perception creates reality is the reason why we instinctively care about how others perceive us. It does matter what others think about us because their thoughts do influence the way we are and what they are able to experience from us. You want others to change their perception of you so that they will change how they are affecting you as well as their experience with you. But always remember that your self perception is most important and has greater influence over you than any other.

If we compliment people with all the good things we think they are, they subconsciously have to become congruent with that perception around you. If you have high expectations of someone, they will have to conform to those expectations. Do you act differently around your parents than you do around your boss? How about your best friend? Chances are, you act differently around each of them because they have a specific perception of you, in which you are subconsciously compelled to conform to. You may be an angel around one person but a complete devil when around another.

Read that again “If we compliment people with all the good things we THINK they are (not necessarily what they actually are), they subconsciously have to become congruent with that perception around you. This is the power of influence - to draw out a particular quality in an individual even if it is not clearly manifest. This is showing grace - giving favor that is unmerited and unearned. How do you feel around someone who believes in you? You feel inspired and empowered to become what they see you to be. You want to prove them right, and not let them down. Those who show favor become the favored.

We have power over other people’s perception of us by our perceptions of their perceptions towards us. When you think that other people like you, you attract that experience from them. We normally reflect the way people perceive us and people normally perceive us the way we project ourselves to them. Therefore if you think that they like you, you will act like that is true and hence you will influence them to like you with your positive actions. Hence all the power is really back in your perceptions.

If others are thinking about you in a negative way, realize that you also thinking about them in a negative way. Everything is a mirror, and the thoughts we send out is reflected back to us. Stop thinking about others in a negative way and they will stop thinking about you in a negative way. Choose instead to think about them in a positive way and they will start thinking about you in a positive way. What you think about another, you’re really thinking about an aspect of yourself. Think well about their thinking.

You also have power over other people’s perception of others by your perception. When you think your friend doesn’t like another person, you will unwittingly suggest through your gestures and words that it is so. Even if that is true, you will only serve to reinforce the dislike that your friend has for another. But if you choose to perceive that your friend does like that person in some way, you will influence him to like that person through your words and body language while you are talking about that person.

You can also alter your experience with others in the moment by altering your perception of them in the moment. Your consciousness affects their state, their thoughts and their feelings. So while you are talking with someone and you’re both thinking and feeling all kinds of angry and unhappy things about each other, but all of a sudden you switch to thinking about that person in a positive and loving way, you’ll cause an instant or gradual shift in their thoughts, feelings and behavior towards you magically.

Imagine a bright white cloud covering that person from the top of his head to the bottom of his feet. Try to really see it in your mind as if you were seeing with your real eyes. Fill the cloud with the most loving feelings by mentally saying phrases such as “I love you”, “You are a wonderful person”, “I send you love, peace and happiness”, “You are a perfect being. When you are experienced, you can simply visualize the cloud and extend positive and loving feelings. Looking in their eyes makes it stronger.

Of course you will have to decide when to change your perceptions about others and to what extent according to your intentions. Sometimes you have to perceive someone as a threat or something to avoid long enough for you to deal with when they are intending to hurt you or hurting you whether intentionally or unintentionally. You have to use whatever perception is useful in the moment and not any longer or shorter than necessary. Be willing to shift perceptions to the most helpful one at any time.

Our perception affect our experiences with others as well as the experiences that others have among each other in profound ways. All the power is with you and you can change your reality by changing the way you perceive others, helping others change their perceptions of you and helping others change their perceptions of each other. Be the peacemaker and the one that brings harmony to the relationships in your world. Shift the consciousness of yourself and others and you’ll shift everyone’s world around.[/hidepost]