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There is a paradox about how self worth is influenced by the wealth and friends that a person has. Resolving this paradox is how a person is able to break past the limits that most people are trapped by. In life, growing beyond the boundaries of the ordinary way of living is what you need to move ahead when everyone else stay where they are. What keeps most people behind is mediocrity and the only way to be above it, is by playing with a different level of rules. The core of it all is the handling of self worth.

People want to be wealthy because it increases their sense of self worth. The desire to become wealthy is natural for us because wealth is the expression of our complete nature. The problem arises when we seek to gain wealth in order to have self worth. It is an intention based on fear instead of love. Wealth is meant to reflect who we really are as beings of infinite value. We should seek to manifest wealth as a form of self expression, and not as a form of self approval. This key difference influences everything.

When you are not yet wealthy, your sense of self worth is more open to influence by the people around you. You tend to be more approval seeking and more easily able to be influenced by the opinions of another. Becoming wealthy often requires you to defy consensus reality. There are many times when you need to go against what all the other people think. The very fact that your self worth is tied to those people is the reason why you are held back. You need people around you to make you feel reassured.
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Social reinforcement of self worth is the very reason why many people like to party, socialize and engage in all sorts of frivolous activities to an obsessive degree. By being in the company of people, we feel more secure about ourselves and the way things are going. We feel a sense of sharing into their world and their resources. But when we are by ourselves, we feel so small and empty. We feel that we are not enough. We would rather hang out with other people than face our need of expanding our own world.

This paradox of human nature is what keeps human beings where they are when they are meant to progress further. We want to increase in wealth in order to feel better about ourselves in front of other people. But creating wealth requires us to reduce our time with social and frivolous activities in order to focus on productive ones. This very act separates us from the sources that maintain our sense of self worth. Therefore we can’t bring ourselves to do it and remain where we are without going anywhere at all.

In order to break the cycle of limitation, we have to become enlightened. It is about seeing the true nature of reality and transcending the illusion that the masses are stuck in. We do so first by realizing that other people do not have to be our sources of self worth. When we turn from external elements and start looking within as our source of all things, we tap into the infinite supply that empowers us to be, do and have anything. Realize that the inner world is all you need, and you will freely rule the outer world.

When you are not yet wealthy or successful, other people’s opinions seem to matter more to you. You want to prove yourself to them and show that you’re worthy of your place in this world. You are concerned about whether you are good enough for other people and you seek to live up to their standards. Their acceptance makes you feel alright about yourself. Often times you have your own idea of how things should be done, but you refrain from expressing it because you don’t feel the right to be the boss.

But when you are someone who has achieved wealth and success, it is a very different reality for you. Other people’s standards no longer apply to you, because your own standards are the highest. Other people’s opinions no longer have much effect on you, because most people are wrong in their perspectives anyway. The way you see things is what sets you apart from the masses. You know that the answer all along has been to follow your own way. You have to act like you are your own boss to be so.

When you are not yet wealthy or successful, the words of a wealthy and successful person have more power to affect you. This can be a good thing when their words are encouraging to you, but it can also be a bad thing when their words make you feel degraded. It is much harder not to be affected by the words of someone who has wealth and success because they seem to have more right with what they say about things. That is why wealth and success are important in life, as they give you greater power.

The words of the wealthy and successful no longer have as much power over you when you are wealthy and successful yourself. You now feel that you are on their level and even higher in some ways. You know that what they say can be wrong and does not have to alter your perspective of things in any way. When you are wealthy and successful, you feel that your words also carry more weight among the masses. Now you have power to affect other people and be one of their larger sources of self worth.

You no longer feel the need to impress when you really got a lot to impress others with. The need to impress others both drives us and keeps us from attaining the wealth and success that we can impress others with. The key is to look into the true nature of the need as a desire to express our infinite value, and detach from the illusion of having to prove what we already are anyway. Enlightened achievement is how we’re able to pursue all that we desire with the freedom to do so by being our own authority.[/hidepost]